Post by Elle on May 26, 2011 16:52:23 GMT
Hmmm... I *do* live in a field with no-one around! I'm surrounded by amazingly beautiful countryside of rolling green hills and trees, and the only sounds outside are birds singing and an occasional plane overhead. The lane is single-track and there's only one other house half a mile up the lane one way, so rarely a car goes by, and our 'next door' neighbours the other way, have stables for the Exmoor ponies they breed. I do sometimes hear their chickens and an occasional dog bark (from their horrid nasty dogs) but not very often. I get all sorts of wild animals in the garden (we don't have a huge amount of land, only an acre, but that is connected to many more that used to be part of this property before we bought it), even wild deer sometimes.
Sounds idyllic? Yep, I thought so too, which is why we moved here 16 years ago. But I'm nearly three quarters of an hour's drive away from the nearest town where you can actually do any shopping (not including small corner shops) and it gets incredibly tedious (not to mention expensive in petrol) to have to drive all that way and back every time you want to pick up something from the shops, or meet someone for a coffee. After a couple of years, the sense of isolation really starts to set in. I now feel *incredibly* lonely living here, and I think I only survive thanks to the net (and Harry!). My h loves it here, but then he is not interested in socializing at all, and doesn't want to go out much any more either. (Warning girls: Beware how *much* men change as they get older, lol!) I long to be able to meet up with friends regularly and have an active social life again, but most of them live too far away at the moment, and they mostly don't like the long drive down the narrow lanes to get here anyway. I'd love to do ringcraft and agility training with Harry. But driving over an hour each way to get to the nearest place, just takes all the fun out of it.
As for people, well yes there are bad as well as good I guess. So maybe compromise is the answer. But girls, remember the old saying about "Be careful what you wish for"? I really, really *don't* recommend 'no people and in the middle of nowhere'… except in the short term, such as a holiday, lol!
Sorry for that diatribe… am in the middle of online house-hunting, so your comments hit a raw note :-)
Sounds idyllic? Yep, I thought so too, which is why we moved here 16 years ago. But I'm nearly three quarters of an hour's drive away from the nearest town where you can actually do any shopping (not including small corner shops) and it gets incredibly tedious (not to mention expensive in petrol) to have to drive all that way and back every time you want to pick up something from the shops, or meet someone for a coffee. After a couple of years, the sense of isolation really starts to set in. I now feel *incredibly* lonely living here, and I think I only survive thanks to the net (and Harry!). My h loves it here, but then he is not interested in socializing at all, and doesn't want to go out much any more either. (Warning girls: Beware how *much* men change as they get older, lol!) I long to be able to meet up with friends regularly and have an active social life again, but most of them live too far away at the moment, and they mostly don't like the long drive down the narrow lanes to get here anyway. I'd love to do ringcraft and agility training with Harry. But driving over an hour each way to get to the nearest place, just takes all the fun out of it.
As for people, well yes there are bad as well as good I guess. So maybe compromise is the answer. But girls, remember the old saying about "Be careful what you wish for"? I really, really *don't* recommend 'no people and in the middle of nowhere'… except in the short term, such as a holiday, lol!
Sorry for that diatribe… am in the middle of online house-hunting, so your comments hit a raw note :-)
I must admit although I want to move closer to civilization (as I call it!) I don't want to end up completely surrounded by ppl (strangers) either. Shame they haven't invented invisibility cloaks for houses and gardens yet... that would solve a lot of problems, wouldn't it, lol!